Rite. Write. Right.

I hate it when people come to me for advice, yet when I gave them what they asked for, they either argued, disagreed or laughed at the things I said. I mean, come on! You asked for my opinion yet when I gave it, you wouldn’t listen! So freaking annoying, you know??

Furthermore, you expect me to be there, be your shoulders to cry on, yet you never listen to what I have to say. And then, when my patience ran thin, you blamed me and told me that I am so like all the other human beings in the whole wide world! That I gave up on people too easily, that I don’t have hope and belIeve in others… bla bla bla. It’s sickening.

First of all, when you ask me for advice, I don’t expect you to agree with what I have to say (even though you know damn well that I’m right!!) simply because you might have your own thoughts about things. But I do expect you to respect what I have to say.

Secondly, don’t blame others for your failure. When others give up on you, it’s not because they don’t have hopes for you but because they are too tired to be let down by you again and again (and again!). You don’t care about yourselves, then why should we care? Don’t say humanity is weak because of this lack of believe in others bla bla bla CRAP! Humanity is weak because of people like YOU!!! People who are too lazy to think about the future, about right and wrong, about life in general. People who only thinks about here and now but never tomorrow or 2, 3, 5 or 10 years from now. People who do something without thinking and later, come to regret it.

Thirdly, be done with your excuses. I’m tired of those. It’s either you want to do it or not. Where there’s a will, there’s always a way no matter how hidden and rocky it my be.

And then, GROW UP!!!

I want to write a book. One day. Perhaps.

Hehe.

Ala jealousnye!!!

Afif dah nak pergi US next month.

When will it be my chance???

If there is one type of person I really cannot stand, they would be two-timers: those who cheat on their loved ones.

I listened to Fix It on Fly FM this morning and two girls were complaining that they found out that they are dating the same boy. When Phat Fabes and Ben called the guy up to get his side of the story, he just laughed. He said it’s normal to be dating a lot of girls at the same time. He even proudly told them that he has 3, 4, 5, 6 other girlfriends! What a sicko!

I don’t know… I am probably just a conservative thinker when it comes to love but I think when you have fallen in love, you should do your best to maintain your fidelity to the person whom you have declared your love to. It is just plain wrong to tell that one person (who probably loves you with all his heart and soul) that you have met another person who have made you feel much more that your partner had ever made you feel. Some people might say that sometimes you can’t help falling in love, but I think that is just plain crap. You just have to have the guts to say no and stand up for yourself and for the one you love. Just ignore his advances (no matter how kind, adorable, cute, or whatever). Think about it. If a person wants you, he will do anything to get you, no matter what. So you are the one who has to resist his ‘actions and charms’.

There is a difference between falling out of love and two-timing. At least, it is not wrong to fall out of love. I mean, sometimes, when you can’t help it, you realize that you don’t actually love the person you THOUGHT you love. Everything he does may get on your nerves and then you realize that he can’t possibly be the one. At least you remain loyal to him until the end.

The thing is this. Don’t make promises if you can’t keep them. If you’re not sure you can love a person forever, then don’t tell him you will. If you think he may not be the one, then don’t tell him he is. If you don’t want to marry him, then don’t tell him you will. Don’t declare your love too easily. Have some dignity. Don’t be too easy.

Jangan permainkan perasaan orang. Have some respect.

Don’t make love a game.

A friend asked:

"What is the most important thing in a marriage?"

My answer:

"Patience"

Love comes with patience: accepting the weaknesses of that one person we truly love and learning to live with them.

Oprah said:

"A woman can have everything but not at the same time."

I couldn’t agree more. We win some, we lose some. It’s all a matter of choice and we while we can all have what we want, only the lucky, but very few ones can have them all right at the same time.

But, isn’t this what life is all about? Choices and choices and even more choices as we continue to stroll along the lanes of life.

The poem by Robert Frost, ‘The Road Not Taken’ speaks eloquently of this, representing especially those who choose to take the uncommon road. I can easily understand what he is trying to say. After PMR, when all my friends were registering for the science stream classes so that they would have better future (at least the promise of professional careers), I registered myself for the Arts stream and taking up Literature in English as my elective subject instead of the more common Perdagangan subject. And when my school friends decided to read law, medicine, accountancy, economics, business admin, TESL, etc for their first degree, I opted for a degree in the almost unheard field of English Language and Literature spending the next 5 years explaining to people that no, when I graduate, I wouldn’t be a teacher and no, that course is not as easy as learning English in school. I rejected a job offer after leaving school in order to wait for what I really, really want while my friends had all started working almost immediately after graduation. And yet, do I regret not taking the common roads? I think I can easily say not at all. NOT AT ALL. Not even when I know my friends will make more money than I will in the future. Or even the fact that if they become experts in their fields, they will be more famous, more respected and more revered than I could ever be. My only consolation is that I truly love what I do.

I think, the secret is to not look back. Once you’ve decided on something, go on with it. Don’t give up, don’t give in, move forward. Like when you choose to get married at an early age, you shouldn’t lament later that you never had the chance to experience real life or have to choose your family over your career because of your duties as a family person. Or when you choose your career over your personal life, don’t complain later that you don’t have time to meet the person of your dreams because you are too tied up with work. Or when you have given your heart to another person and then you meet a totally different person who takes your breath away, have the courage to either walk away and be faithful or choose the other person.

Either this or that. Not both. At least not together, not at the same time.